When you can’t pay your way, it eats away at you. Have you ever felt like you are shrinking in on yourself and there’s a ball of fear somewhere between your heart and your throat ?
Some very unpleasant things happen to good people. When illness, loss of a job or relationship breakdown sends your life and your finances into a spin what do you do ?
Most people are so traumatised, they stick their head in the sand and hope things will improve without them doing anything. When life takes a negative twist, and then another; and it feels like the hard times go on and on, it becomes harder and harder to cope. The power of positive thinking is all very well but it truly is easier said than done. Over time hope ebbs away. You lose yourself, who you thought you were drips away. Stress wears you down even when you can put on a good front.
The bills pile up. You stop opening them.
The people you owe money to call and call and call. You don’t answer them. You are ashamed. You have no answers. It feels like the minute you are not in good standing with your bank or who ever you owe money to, that they start treating you like you are some kind of sub-human. Dealing with collections agents, no matter how understanding they try to make you perceive them, or how well they think they present themselves, is a body blow. You want this onslaught of organisational torture and corporate types to stop at you.
The phone ringing frightens you. You feel like screaming but you know that won’t help.
The postman arrives with registered letters. You don’t want to answer the door now. You feel hunted.
How do you make things better when you don’t know where to turn with the weight of debt ? You’ve messed up. That’s how it is in your head.
If you are feeling any of this MABS, a free, small local organisation in your town may be for you. We don’t judge. Bad things happen to good people. Most of us are only a few pay days away from times being tough.
It’s a hard thing to do, to take the big, brave step of telling a stranger about the mess. You feel you’ll be judged, made feel small and bad. Telling a stranger who works for Limerick MABS may be just the thing to do to take that first vital footstep on your journey of change.
What do MABS do ? We get it. We see it every day. Your situation is unlikely to be the worst we’ve ever seen. We try to take the weight off you. We help by letting you let out. We help by organising, getting your paperwork together and getting your budget down on paper. We help by treating you like you matter and helping you does matter to us. We’re at the end of the phone when the envelope arrives that you are just too afraid to open.
Working through your debt can be an emotional journey, we don’t pretend otherwise. The emotion at the start of your journey may be tears of despair or anger. We’ve taken that journey with hundreds of people each year. We’ve helped people for the last 25 years. A recent client told us we brought him “back from the darkness of hell to sunlight” he had gone from “despair to jumping in the air” because his Money Adviser negotiated a write off of his debt. The emotion at the end of your journey could be tears of relief. You could be this person too, we are a phone call 0761 072 210 or an email away firstname.lastname@example.org.